Man or women, we all want to be happy and treated well. No matter who is the more romantic soul of the two or who likes to be more lovey dovey; you can both find ways that are simple throughout your day to make your partner happy and show them that you care. Here are ten simple things that you can do to make your partner happy in your life. It does not take much time or effort, just a bit of love and thoughtfulness. You’re welcome.
1. Leave Them A Note
In their lunch, on their mirror in the bathroom, on the steering wheel of their car, anywhere fun that you can think of to leave a note. Grab a Post-It and write a simple not to your partner telling them how much you love them or even just to have a great day. A little sweet nothing to perk up their day will make all the difference in whether or not they are happy. Knowing that someone is thinking of you is the ultimate feeling and what better way to say you care than with a sweet little Post-It.
2. Make Them Laugh
Laughter is the best, and doing something throughout the day to make your partner laugh with bring them so much joy. Having the ability to make someone laugh is one of the most attractive qualities you can have in a partner. Everyone feels better after they laugh. If you can find a way to make your partner laugh everyday, even if it is as silly as a dance you do while brushing your teeth, do it. Their day will be brighter because they laughed and your day will be brighter because you made them laugh.
3. Make Out With Them
At the end of each night before you lay down to sleep, grab a hold of your partner and make out with them. This will surprise them, especially if it is out of character for you, and make them so very happy. It is one thing to kiss your partner but to kiss them passionately and make out a little bit is even better.
4. Listen To Them
All anyone wants is to be listened to. When your partner is talking to you, take a breath and really focus on their words. Paraphrase back to them what they have said so that they know you are listening. It is important for you relationship to listen to one another and if you make the extra effort to listen extra hard for some conversations it will make your partner very happy.
5. Give Them Personal Space
No one should have to ask for personal space. You should just give it to them proactively. If you both have your own personal space times I promise you will be happier for it. You don’t have to ignore them or ship them off to the movies but you can just space yourself out in the evening. For example, she can go read a book in the den and he can go play video games in the living room. You are in the same house, but you are having alone time. It is healthy to have personal space when you are in a relationship because you need to refresh yourself so that you can be at your best for your partner.
“If they do not take time for self-care, encourage them to do some. Let them know that while they have responsibilities, their well-being should be one as well. They do so much for you and your family, they should be sure to take care of themselves.” -Dr. Nikki Martinez, Psy.D.
6. Affirm Your Partner
To affirm your partner is so much more than to just say they look good or that they are doing a good job at something. To affirm them is to genuinely take something that they do in your life that you appreciate and compliment them on it.
“So, if they are wearing a nice new outfit, or a great scarf and shoes, if they got a new haircut, say something.” -Dr. Nikki Martinez, Psy.D.
7. Ask Them On A Date
Of course you go on dates, or at least I would hope you go on dates because you are a couple. Even if you have a regular standing date night or not, mix it up a little and plan a surprise nice dinner out to sweep them off their feet. Spontaneity can spark a happiness within your partner that you will be pleased to see.
“This lets them know they are a priority, and that is it important to you to spend quality time together outside the home, just the two of you.” -Dr. Nikki Martinez, Psy.D.
8. Learn To Express Your Vulnerabilities
Let your guard down a bit when you are talking with your partner. Tell them what makes you afraid, what makes you scared, what insecurities you may have.
“This lets them know that you are just as human, insecure, and afraid, and that you genuinely understand how they are feeling.” — Dr. Nikki Martinez, Psy.D.
Being vulnerable in front your partner may not be as simple as some of the other items on this list but it will by far get you the most happiness out of your partner. Showing and expressing your vulnerabilities with one another will make you a stronger couple and a happier couple at the end of the day.
9. Send One Another Silly Snapchat Videos
A solid way to make your partner happy is to pull up a silly snapchat filter and send them a video at two in the afternoon to make them laugh and know that you are thinking about them. If your partner is more on the serious side could you imagine receiving a dog face filter of them lip syncing in the middle of your work day? Now that is love. Making themselves look silly just to put a smile on your face. Snapchat is fun, playful, and totally a simple way to brighten your partner’s day and show them that you care.
“I’ve been with my boyfriend for two years, and I still get a good laugh from the videos he sends me of himself via Snapchat. And it’s not even like he’s trying to make me laugh. I just love him so much that I crack up out of adoration.” — Kelly W., 26
10. Kiss Them Every. Damn. Day.
For some physical affection is not a given in relationships. Some people are more comfortable than others with physical affection in public or even in private. It is important to kiss your partner everyday and MEAN IT. Not just a little peck on the cheek. You should give a genuine focused kiss on the lips to your partner every damn day. It is so important to show affection and make physical contact with one another.
Hopefully with all of these tips you will be gaining major points and make your partner happier each and every day.