Online dating has its pros and cons, we all know that. While some find it awkward to communicate and flirt online, the others really can’t get enough of it and take it to an extreme level. What has to be taken into account, is that our times are changing, and with times so do our social interactions. So what this epoch of technology is bringing into our romantic relationships, has a lot to do with the way we interact with the world and build our love relationships. Here are the five perks we believe the modern technology brings into our search for love
1) Although you meet online, you very quickly move into an offline communication
Online communication actually encourages, and not disturbs the development of intimacy and attraction between two people who are interested in each other. It is more like a facilitator that can help people be more efficient in their search for love.
2) Times have changed and social pressure to get married has decreased
Since in the past people used to marry in their early 20s, it meant that all the dating was done with the intention of settling down right away. But times have changed dramatically, and the social pressure of getting married in your 20s is almost non-existent today in the United States. What it means is that young people are eager to experiment with dating a lot more nowadays. What platform can be better for experimenting then the mighty Internet?
3) It gives people from remote communities meet someone new.
Day-to-day, face-to-face life doesn’t always bring a lot of excitement when it comes to the cirlce of people we surround ourselves with, especially when it comes to remote areas. The larger subset of potential partners online is a big advantage for these folks and can really surve as a force of finding someone who is very far, yet very close to their heart.
4) It’s not a revolution, but an evolution of human dating
According to Michael Rosenfeld, we, humans, are always paranoid and terrified of new emerging technologies, and there is always an anti-utopian scenario being born in our heads every time a new trend in society appears. Let’s take as an example the fear about the washing machines people used to had decades ago, since they believed that if nobody goes to the laundromat to wash their clothes together, people will stop spending time together and socialize. But we all know that people still talk to each other, and the same trend is happening to online dating. It causes a lot of unnecessary paranoia, which in the end will seem ridiculous to the future generations.
5) It’s superficial just like we are.
It’s difficult to admit, but we are very superficial creatures. People criticize online dating for judging others primarily on their appearance and level of attractiveness but judging what someone looks like first is not an attribute of technology. It’s an attribute of the modern worldview. People who meet online actually progress to marriage faster than people who meet offline. So perhaps replicating the pattern of human behavior is indeed the most efficient facilitation technique of romantic relationships.