5 Signs You And Your Crush Are Compatible
At the beginning of the relationship, it's really hard to tell if you and your crush are compatible. You don't know them that well and often strong chemistry gets in the way of seeing even the most obvious red flags.
86% of Hily's single users say they don't rely only on feelings when it comes to building relationships. They believe compatibility is important. But what's compatibility? Do opposites truly attract or similar people get along better?
Actually, it works both ways.
According to a clinical psychologist Dr. Mark Borg, opposites do attract… and water seeks its own level. The paradox of compatibility is that these two seemingly contradictory states exist simultaneously.
Yes, 'opposites attract' is only true when two people can complement each other's traits, says a mental health consultant and relationship expert Adina Mahalli.
There’s a difference between the cliché of a ‘good girl’ being attracted to a ‘bad boy’, and an extrovert complementing an introvert. Knowing that your partner doesn’t need to be exactly the same as you can enhance a relationship and allow you to grow in your own ways. In this sense, it is healthy to date someone who is different from you in terms of personality.
So, how to tell that you and your crush are compatible?
*according to a clinical psychologist Dr. Kathy Nickerson
You Feel Comfortable Being Yourself Around Your Crush
It's important that you both feel like friends and get along well. Neither of you should be ashamed or afraid of revealing your true self to each other.
You Feel Like Being In This Relationship Is Easy Most Of The Time
Of course, no relationship is simple. Arguments happen, but fighting over every little thing is not a good sign. A good relationship is also no place for disapproval, judgement or harsh criticism. If you’re really compatible, you’ll feel like the relationship is easy most of the time, that your partner has your back, and that you're safe.
You Have Shared Values
Agreeing on basic values is one of the most important signs that you and your crush are compatible. You should have similar opinions on stuff that matters: morals, life goals, money, kids or faith.
If they want to have ten children and you can’t stand the sight of kids, there’s no compatibility between the two of you, says Adina Mahalli.
You Like And Respect Your Partner
An instant spark with someone is not enough. If you think your crush has a good character or are a good person, they most likely are a solid life partner for you.
Most Of Your Friends And Family Like Your Partner
Of course, it's you who knows what's best for you. However, in this case don't ignore the opinions of people that care.
While you can get caught up in all the feel-good chemicals associated with being in love, your close friends and family won’t… And they’ll be honest with you about your partner’s character and behaviour, says Dr. Kathy Nickerson.
If you believe that opposites attract, you might wanna check if you're not routinely picking the wrong kind of person, i.e., some women always go for the bad guy who they know will break their heart. If this keeps happening, it’s important to take a step back and try to figure out why you keep picking that person, says Dr. Kathy Nickerson.
We tend to be attracted to those who like us and feel familiar to us for some reason. However, it's totally okay to date someone who's different.
Differences are good. The important thing is you should always feel safe, loved, and respected.
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