Going On a First Date With Your Online Crush? 7 Tips To Feel Safe and Comfortable

Taking your online relationship offline? That's how you can play it safe, according to experts.

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1. Have a Phone Conversation at First

Usually, it's much easier to hide behind text messages than speak spontaneously and let someone hear your real voice. Gaye Weintraub, who is a relationship counsellor, believes you can get a good feel for a person based on their voice in a phone conversation.

2. Know What Speed Is Good For You

Yes, we're talking about boundaries. Don't be afraid to speak up and tell if you're not comfortable with a requested place, time or activity.

3. Meet at a Place You've Been Before

Of course, it should be public. The servers at your favourite bar or coffee shop will probably recognize you. It won't only help to take the edge off but also let your date know you’re in good hands with the staff there, says Nancy Deen, a former matchmaker. If you feel uncomfortable, you can always sneak away to the bathroom and call a friend, family member, or taxi to take you home.

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4. Carry Your Valuables With You To The Bathroom

Better you seem a bit paranoid than come back to the table at dinner to find your bag, wallet or other valuables gone with your date, says Jeffrey Sothers. So, when you leave the table take your purse/wallet/bag with you.

5. Avoid or Limit Alcohol

It's very common to meet someone for drinks at a bar. If possible choose another way to spend your time with a person you barely know. Remember alcohol affects your judgment and decision making, says Mario Singelmann.

6. Pay Attention

On a first date, take your time to get to know a person. What are they into? Do you have a lot in common? Any red flags? Elisa Robyn, a wealth relationship expert, says it's important to be open-minded about your date.

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7. Keep Your Personal Information Personal

It's great if you feel connected to your date, but wait until you really trust them to share your personal details. Here are some basics: don't ask for a drive and always get your own transportation and tell a close friend where you are going.

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