The Summer season is still not over, and that means that we all are very vulnerable to falling in love and being chased by new feelings. Sometimes you might wonder if the butterflies in your stomach are there because of the guy you’ve met last night or the expired burger you ate while being hangover. Wonder no more — here are the signs, which will definitely prove that your feelings are real:
- Thinking this one’s special. When you’re in love, you begin to think the beloved person s unique. The belief is coupled with an inability to feel romantic passion for anyone else. Psychologists believe this single-mindedness results from elevated levels of central dopamine — a chemical involved in attention and focus — in your brain.
- Planning a future. They also long for emotional union with their beloved, seeking out ways to get closer and day-dreaming about their future together. Lucy Brown, who is a love expert and neuroscientist at the Albert Einstein College of Medicine in New York, says this drive to be with another person is sort of like our drive toward water and other things we need to survive.
- Focusing on the positive. People who are truly in love tend to focus on the positive qualities of their beloved, while overlooking his or her negative traits. They also focus on trivial events and objects that remind them of their loved one, daydreaming about these precious little moments and mementos. This focused attention is also thought to result from elevated levels of central dopamine, as well as a spike in central norepinephrine, a chemical associated with increased memory in the presence of new stimuli
- Intensifying attraction. Going through some sort of adversity with another person tends to intensify romantic attraction. Central dopamine may be responsible for this reaction, too, because research shows that when a reward is delayed, dopamine-producing neurons in the mid-brain region become more productive.
- Feelings of empathy. People who are in love generally feel a powerful sense of empathy toward their beloved, feeling the other person’s pain as their own and being willing to sacrifice anything for the other person.
- Feeling out of control. According to science, individuals who report being “in love” commonly say their passion is involuntary and uncontrollable.
- You re-read all digital conversations. Your texts, snaps, g-chats, e-mails You save them all and love reading and re-reading it all, and when you do you always get that fluttery feeling inside.What this means is he or she always puts a smile on your face and lifts your mood. They are a source of support and happiness, and just re-experiencing exchanges you’ve had with him can recharge you.
- You want to know their entire story. When we love someone, we can’t get enough. We want to know every story, every scar, and every scratch. When you’re infatuated you’re more likely to want the focus to be on you. You’ll want reassurances that he’s equally infatuated with you, and your interactions will probably be more shallow.