Boston Marriage

Just another phrase for roommates or is there more to it?

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A Brief (Her)story

For those of you that are unfamiliar with the term “Boston Marriage” let be the first to tell you that there are much more intricacies to this phrase than simply ‘two women living together in a shared space.’

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Modern “Boston Marriages”

Are your lady neighbors down the hall “just friends” or are they lovers. No matter which of the two is truthful they are considered to be in a Boston Marriage. Spinster is a somewhat derogatory slang word for a woman of a certain age that lives alone and has never married. Instead of appearing as the crazy cat lady (cat lady pic), women pair up and share a life together. They dine out as a couple and live together under one roof. This relationship may be romantic but it can also be platonic.

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Why not just live alone or get married?

Because it would be lonely. Studies show that people that live alone spend more time outside of their home to fill time and entertain their social needs. If you were to have a roommate that shared your common interests you would not only save money on rent and groceries, you would have a live-in friend. Just like in college when you needed someone to talk to the second you got in from class. An always available person to have a cup of tea with. Instead of talking about what you should wear with your dog you can bounce it off your roommate, someone that can give you actual feedback.

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A “Kept” Woman No Longer

With another surge of feminism in the 21st century, lifestyles that were labeled “alternative” or “taboo” in the past are seen as commonplace now. Gay marriage is legal, women have goals and aspirations bigger than having children and getting married, a more educated society does not marry as soon as they used to.

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