Dispelling Myths About Sex and Disability
Let's talk about sex and disability. We all need to know how it impacts intimacy.
This year's Sexual Health Week's (September 16–22) theme is Relationships, Sex and Disability. Sex is often a taboo topic; whereas talking about sex and disability is even more uncomfortable.
We at Hily believe that every person who dates actively should know enough to separate myths from reality. According to research published by a charity called Scope, only 7% of non-disabled people have dated people with disabilities.
That's why Hily decided to talk about sex and disability. Not all disabilities are visible and not everyone was born with a disability. So, here is the list of most common misconceptions about people with disabilities, relationships and sex.
People with disabilities can't or don't want to have sex.
One of the most frequently asked questions to the disabled people on dating apps is 'Can you have sex?'
The writer and activist Penny Pepper who has a disability says it's exasperating and offensive to be viewed as asexual, especially when it is not a choice. Disabled people have the same sexual needs and want sex as much as everybody else.
Some may have physical limitations, however, it doesn't mean they can't or do not want to have sex. There are many ways to do it (we trust you know that). The only thing people with disabilities should do more is voice their wants and needs to their partner.
People with disabilities only have sex with each other.
Broadcaster and journalist Mik Scarlet, who has limited mobility, says that's a matter of taste. Everyone wants to have sex with people they are into, no matter if they have a disability or not.
The truth is, disability is not always visible. Even having food allergies can be a limitation in one’s sex life. It came to us as a surprise as well! A Youtube blogger Hannah Witton made a video featuring people with disabilities talking about their sex life. Hily recommended ;)!
People with disabilities can't have children.
Most of the physical impairments have nothing to do with one's fertility. Just look at this photo. Nick Vujicic was born with the extremely rare Tetra Amelia Syndrome. He became the voice of people with disabilities. Nick is also happily married, and his wife gave birth to four wonderful children. Need we say more?
Here are some more useful links:
Get to know about concerns people with disabilities may have about sex.
Read more about this year's Sexual Health Week.
A story of a woman dating a man in a wheelchair.
Celebrate Sexual Health Week with Hily!
Spread a word about disability and sex on your social media with #SHW19 hashtag.