Going On a Virtual Date? Here's How To Make It a Success

Tips from the body language, communication, and confidence coach.

Although some of the quarantine measures are being lifted off, most of the singles are still practicing social distancing. We've officially entered an era where video connection plays a more important role than ever.

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Get Ready

Our minds can manage 30–50 thoughts per minute, says Karen. That's why you can make an impression on a person in front of you in a very short time. A virtual date is still a date. So, get ready as if you're going out on an actual face-to-face date.

How To Have A Quality Conversation

Create The Right Atmosphere

Try to keep things fun and light, recommends Karen.

This is not an interview for marriage next week.

Think Of Your Questions

Try to avoid "yes" or "no" questions, they don't help to move the conversation forward and can lead to awkward pauses. Give a person a chance to open up! Use open-ended questions, says Karen. People will be able to give longer answers.

People like to talk about themselves, so let them.

Be Ready To The Moments Of Silence

All of us hate those awkward pauses, but they may be inevitable especially if you two have never met before. Just in case prepare some stories or a few talking points (find a few examples at the end of the article).

Give Longer Answers

Make your answers longer than you would have done in real life.


Do not get distracted on other things! Instagram feed or a bird out the window should be off-limits during your video date. Be attentive to another person and listen to what they have to say. Use this information as a clue to your next question or conversation starter.

Avoid Certain Topics Unless You Know You Both Would Enjoy Them

Try not to go into details about COVID-19. It's changed our lives for sure, but this topic can make people uncomfortable or even panicky. Need we say you don't have to mention your ex or ask them about their readiness for family and kids on the first date.

Do Not Brag

Of course, on first dates, you can talk a lot about yourself! However, try to do it without sounding arrogant or trying to outsmart another person. It's not a competition. Be genuine and share your excitement. Bragging can reveal your own insecurities, as can too many jokes.

Conversation Starters From The Coach

Here are a few talking points from Karen Donaldson.

Useful Questions

“What was the best part of your day today?”

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