A Path Toward Healthy Relationships
Turn Toward Not Away
Regardless of gender each partner has his or her strengths. Enjoy the fact that your partner may be better or more affluent at something than you and turn towards them. Use their skills and embrace the gift they are in your life to supplement your skills. It is so important to respect one another and remain autonomous at times but other times you should turn toward each other for help rather than away to assert your independence.
“When David needs Constantino, he must go to him and engage with him. Expressing a need requires some vulnerability because it means that you lack something or require help that your partner can supply.” -David and Constantino Khalaf, bloggers
Embrace Your Differing Genders
Classically in a man and woman relationship the woman is prone to exert her independence due to the fact that women used to have to be submissive to their husbands and depend solely on them financially. Today, woman can work, and can do just as many things as a man can. Therefore in order to avoid reverting back to the “old ways” there is a push for independence in a relationship.
“Many wives may resist leaning into dependence as well, given feminist rejections of traditional gender roles that rely on dependence…women must assert their independence in the workplace and in other areas of life in order to break through the inequality that still exists among genders.” -David and Constantino Khalaf, bloggers
However, we should embrace the differences in each gender. Women and men both have strengths and weaknesses. There does not have to be woman’s work or man’s work but there should be an obvious weight on the individual that is better at certain aspects of the relationship so that you can work as a cohesive team. Everything is about communication and teamwork.