Tune Into Your Feelings
The first step to setting boundaries with someone else is to set boundaries with yourself first and understand why you need certain boundaries in your life to be happy. Asking yourself important questions about why you feel the way you do about someone. How did you end up creating such a barrier when it comes to love? Talking about your feelings and your past with a therapist or friends can help open up some answers as to why you are the way you are and why you want boundaries of such a high or low standard in your relationships.
Make it known that you need boundaries to form healthy relationships.
“Setting boundaries takes courage, practice and support,” Gionta said. And remember that it’s a skill you can master.
Make Self Care A Priority
No matter who you are you need to take care of yourself. But not just basic human needs, a little extra. Going to the spa, enroll in a yoga class, take time to read a book that is not about your job. It doesn’t have to cost money you just have to acknowledge yourself and your spirit in order to understand what you need in life and relationships. Self-care also means recognizing the importance of your feelings and honoring them.
These feelings serve as “important cues about our wellbeing and about what makes us happy and unhappy.”
If you are in need of help, joining a support group can be very positive for you. Whether you need healing support or you need a shoulder to cry on seeking out a church group, AA meetings, or even seek counseling with a professional. There is strength in numbers and the more people you have on your side emotionally the stronger you will be.