Meeting your partner’s parents is one of the first things you can do in a relationship to start moving things from casual to serious or just getting to know your partner better and seeing him from a different perspective. However, the idea of it can sometimes be nerve wracking, so here are some ways of how to get through it all smoothly.
1. Make sure you’re ready. Be patient, you don’t need to meet them until you are sure things are serious in your relationship. Usually, after three of four weeks of being together, meeting the parents is a good way of moving the relationship forwards.
2. Don’t arrive late to meet them. First impressions are everything and being late is not a good one. Running in looking flushed from the sprint you just did is sure not to be one of them. Give yourself enough time to get ready. Coming early is better than coming late. Arriving late, sweaty and out of breath can also increase any self-consciousness or nerves you may have.
3. Bring a small gift. Try to find out from your partner if their parents have any favorite cookies, flowers or chocolates, or if you are going over for dinner, a bottle of wine. This will start everything off in a positive way.
4. Be cheerful. Nobody likes someone who moans and whines. Stay away from sad stories, comments on ex-boyfriends or any arguments you and your partner have been having, his parents don’t want to hear any of that. As long as you two look happy, they’ll be happy, so keep the conversations on a positive note.
5 Stay calm and just be yourself. There’s nothing worse than a fake, and it’s totally obvious if you try too hard. Just calm down and enjoy yourself. If you are relaxed and not too shy or over-excitable, then they’ll feel much more comfortable being around you and conversation will come much more easily. When they ask you questions, for example about your future or career, just be truthful but make sure you have confidence in your own plan.
6 Show an interest. Ask them questions about their child, about their jobs, their hobbies. This will help you really get to know them, and show that you’re not self-absorbed. Also, if you find something in common then that’s a great conversation topic and lots of bonus points.