Love-Hate Relationships And How To Find A Way Out
1. Parts of him have you absolutely enamoured…
He makes you laugh out loud, the impression he does of your boss has you rolling on the floor every time. He brings you roses every few weeks at just about the right time you are beginning to fall into a slump and need a pick-me-up. And his kisses, oh my, the kisses, no one has ever kissed you like he has in your entire life.
2. ...but other parts make you want to strangle him.
The cat he has at his apartment sheds like a mofo and it is as if he has never seen a vacuum in his life. You are not allergic but come on! That cat hair would make anyone sneeze. His happy hour at work is more like a happy three hour and it is really starting to harsh your mellow. He needs to make more time for you and stop “networking” with people he sees everyday at the office.
3. There is no true direction of the relationship
You go to dinner, you sleep over, and then repeat. There is no talk of marriage, kids, buying a place together, nothing. Is this what your life has become now, just a perpetual date. We need to talk about where this relationship is going dude!
4. Makeup-breakup endless cycle
As much as makeup sex is great, the breakup you have to get to that sex is just not worth it. Your anniversary date has changed 7 times since you met. The constant breakup-makeup cycle has got to end. How can anyone take your relationship seriously if you can’t even take it seriously yourselves?
5. Emotional intensity
Intense is a great word to describe a love-hate relationship. Your love is intense, your hate is intense, everything is extreme. Although at first this is all fun and refreshing there comes a point where you just need to chill and relax in a relationship. There should not be daily screaming matches in the kitchen. There is a difference between passion and hatred. You need to figure that out.
How To Fix A Love/Hate Relationship
There are more than one way to solve your love/hate relationship problems. Just to name a few you need to begin by asking yourselves these questions:
Do you want it to work?
How are you going to make it work?
AND, If both of you are willing to make things work and adjust the quirks within your relationship then you can go ahead and fix your love/hate relationship. Otherwise you will have to go your separate ways. A genuine communication to get on the same page and layout all of your hate on a pad of paper is the only way to stop all the fights. When he decides that he won’t clean up the cat hair, although this is small, it can become a bigger issue later in life because he is not agreeing to compromise on the situation. That will not serve you well in the future.