Whose Career Is More Important
The long and short of it is, no one’s career is more important. One of you may make more money or have more praise but the only part of your career that is important thing in your relationship is your partner. Now this is not to say that you cannot have both love and ambition for your career. On the contrary, you can absolutely have a badass career and be in a loving relationship, you just need to find your balance to manage both in a healthy way.
He says these couples are at more risk when the connection to the career becomes primary, and the commitment to and trust in the relationship becomes questionable. “Having a spouse addicted to work can feel like as much of a betrayal as extramarital affair to the other spouse.” — Dr. Mike McNulty, a Master Certified Gottman Therapist
The first step is to never put your career in front of your partner’s self interests. Your spouse must always come first. There is room for compromise in both aspects but for the most part you partner and his or her feelings must always come first. Having a high powered career does not make you more important than your spouse. It just means you make more money and may have a bit more notoriety.
Spending time together and communication are the two best ways you can integrate a high powered career into your life and have a successful loving relationship that lasts.
“Make time every day to talk with your spouse, in person or by phone, about one another’s lives,” McNulty says, noting that texting is often not enough. — Dr. Mike McNulty, a Master Certified Gottman Therapist
Hopefully with these tips you can make your relationship last and your career flourish.