Swiper’s Neglect: A Tale Of Forgotten Responses
When you swipe do you intend to message that person? I wonder sometimes if online dating is more of a game than a forum for meeting people. Take for example the hilarious conversation that has been circling the twitterverse. A couple met on a dating site and they had 11 messages over a course of 3 years. This is a very laughable matter. If they ever do meet up in person it will be a fun story to tell in the future. If they let this conversation go so long with little to no communication is it really going well? It seems like they are making a mockery of the situation. This then begs the question, why do people swipe right?
Why Do I Swipe?
Initially, people swipe to meet someone. They scroll the dating sites with hopes to find the love of their life. Or they swipe to have sex and then that is that. So what happens to the forgotten swipes? You swiped a picture of someone because you like them, then why was there no follow up? Could it be that this is a game for some? Is it laziness, arrogance, fear? Or do we genuinely get caught up with life and do not have time to do anything about it? Take the situation I mentioned earlier, clearly they are getting each others messages, so why not answer within days or hours rather than months.
What Can We Do To Fix It?
First we need to find out what makes people do these things before we can decide how to fix this lazy response time. Maybe sites can add a notification aspect that pops up to remind you to respond if you get side tracked? I mean that is the only way if it is forgetting that results in the delayed response. As far as the others, laziness, arrogance, fear, these are all based on your attitudes towards dating. The effort has to be there. You get out of it what you put into it.
Do not be laissez faire about swiping because it hurts not only you and your potential to date someone but it hurts them when you don’t respond. Step-up your game and realize that if you don’t put much effort into online dating and respond to your prospects the nothing will come of it.