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The 10 Things You Learn Your First Year Living With a Guy

Dating teaches you a lot about the person that you are with. It gives you a chance to know them and learn about their likes, dislikes, quirks, and hobbies. But there are somethings that you will never learn on a dinner date that you will learn once you move in with him. There are just some stuff that can’t be described and must be experienced, like men leaving the toilet seat open or all the random beard hairs you will find riddling your sink.

Sure you might see a nice sparkling clean room when you visit, but we all know that maintaining perfect hygiene and cleanliness 24/7 is a different story. So while the honeymoon may last for a little while, don’t be surprised to see that someone you once thought was a Type A neat freak may be a little more messy when nobody’s looking.

Do you know who all of his friends are? Has he shared what his passions and hobbies are? Don’t be surprised to learn that how he spends his downtime may be completely different from what you are expecting. Hidden hobbies, extra naps, and a little more video game time than he would like to admit are completely normal and to be expected. As you spend your first year together, explore how you both spend your down time and you might find a few new hobbies yourself.

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A little night cap here and there isn’t a bad thing, but you may have been dating a closet alcoholic without even knowing it. In your first year together, you will really see their true character in how they handle substances like alcohol and if there are any dependency issues. And depending on whether or not you share the same behavior, it may be worth it to have a conversation about drinking habits if expectations ultimately do not meet reality.

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Sure he might order steak and seafood regularly when you go out to dinner, but don’t be surprised if his actual diet habits look nothing like date night. A secret fast food run here and there, or late night snacking are completely normal and are a part of the process when settling down. And if you get lucky, you might just learn that he is a master home chef, and whip you up fancy meals regularly. When moving in, you can gauge his dietary habits by going grocery shopping together. A quick run to the store should be able to tell you all you need to know about what he eats.

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Talking in his sleep, odd compulsions, and silly habits are all to be expected when moving in for the first time. You might find that they annoy you, or you may even find that they are endearing. But never forget, you probably have some of these quirks too — so you are best off embracing the ones you can’t change, while having an honest conversation about those you can.

Not everybody folds laundry the same way, or feels strongly about using a dishwasher versus hand washing. That’s because we’ve all come to learn how to tackle chores in our own way. When dividing and conquering chores, it’s best to start off by doing them together. You’ll find that each of you will have your own preferences for which chores you like to do, versus those you don’t. Likewise, you’ll also probably find that he may be better at some chores and you at others. Through this exploration, you should be able to create a rough idea of how the flow of chores will go in your house, while keeping the lines of communication open to ensure that they get done.

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Sure, he may look suave when you see him out at the club but chances are high that there is a tattered pair of sweatpants hiding somewhere in his closet. Our best advice? Have fun with it! Our wardrobes are a collection of memories and stories that are tied to the moments in which we bought each garment. Make laundry an activity that will help you two get to know each other even better. See where that college t-shirt came from, or find out why he has been holding onto that Halloween costume for all these years. Our closets say a lot about us, and his will give you a chance to get to know him even more.

Let’s not bead around the bush here… men are hairy and you should expect to find hair everywhere. So if you aren’t used to finding the occasional beard hairs around the bathroom sink be prepared for it. Chances are, he’s not used to having to be accountable for every single whisker, so be gentle when asking him to clean up at first. With a little reinforcement you’ll be used to seeing a few hairs here and there, and he’ll adjust to being more thorough in his post shave cleanup.

Yup, you have weird habits just like him. They may not be as gross or they may be worse. You may discover that living with someone brings out the inner slob in you because you don’t feel like you have the need to impress or hide anymore. Once he finds out that those lashes peel off and that you contour he will have a whole new likeness for you and your habits. So even if living with boys is weird, it is just as foreign to them for living with girls. You both are weird.

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Is he a macho man or a scaredy cat? Only time will tell. Spiders and household insects are a part of life that you will likely deal with in your first year together. And when the time comes, here’s a little tip to make your man feel a little manlier: pretend to be a little more afraid than usual and let your white knight come in to save the day. It will be a fun little reminder of your appreciation for him, while making him feel his worth as the newly appointed man of the house.

Oh what a world we live in for the people that we love. Learning to put up with certain habits or ticks that your loved ones may have. As well as learning a bit about yourself in the process, living together uncovers a whole new world together as a couple.

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